Friday, June 22, 2012

Week in Seven Words #124

Dinner is held in a dim and peaceful room, the windows framing a pink sunset. On the table, flowers are cradled in a vase.

I'm fed up with "good intentions" - not actual good intentions but the expression itself: "Don't be mad, I have good intentions" or "I'm telling you that nearly everything about you stinks, but that's ok, because I have good intentions." They're an excuse for every insensitive remark, personal affront, and belabored criticism; they absolve the speaker of any wrong-doing. There's no need for self-examination or a sincere attempt to speak with tact and empathy. How can anyone be hurt or irritated by good intentions? ("That's one of your problems right there - you're too sensitive. No, it's true. Believe me, I'm telling you this out of the goodness of my heart.")

Walking in the rain wearing sandals that nick my toes.

For the most part she's an easy dog to watch over. She solicits belly rubs, flops down on the carpet by my feet for a rest, and tussles with some of her chew toys. But there are ten minutes when a switch flips in her puppy mind and she tears around the room in a circuit, over the back of the couch and under the bed and back out again.

A game of Scrabble on a bench outdoors with a breeze from the river.

Light shimmering on the underside of stone.

When I tuck them into bed they sing me the lullabies that their parents usually sing to them.


naida said...

I like what you did with 'ambiance'.
And *sigh* about good true. It reminded me of when someone once told me I can't take constructive criticism after I told her her remarks were offending me.

HKatz said...

It reminded me of when someone once told me I can't take constructive criticism after I told her her remarks were offending me.
Yep - it's all about you; no self-examination necessary :)

fiction-books said...

Hi HKatz,

Three of your words stood especially this week:

Ambience: can make so much difference to my state of mind. Stresses and strains can visibly melt away and I feel much more calm, if the ambience in a room or place is right.

Mellowed: They say that we mellow with age. I don't know just how true that is, however the slower paced more sedentary things in life, certainly tend to have more impact on me.

Chipping: I am not the most tactful of people I admit. I tend to 'say it as it is', even though I certainly don't set out to cause hurt to anyone's feelings. I also don't suffer fools gladly and I think that if something needs doing I should just get on with it. They say that 'the world is paved with good intentions', which to me is really just a cop-out for not doing something straightaway and making excuses for why not.

Great post and some interesting words for discussion.


HKatz said...

Yvonne, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Bluntness can be valuable, but there's a fine line between being honest and brutally honest. There are some people who seem to love the 'brutally' part more than the 'honest' part. But it's not necessarily them I'm speaking of in 'chipping' (it could include them though).

I love your thoughts on the other words too - ambience is so true.